“I’ve spent too much of my life picking apart my facial features and behavior to be placed into a box labeled ‘exotic.’
People with ‘yellow fever’ are completely fine with generalizing me and other Asians and Asian Americans, assuming we’ll fit into their little mold of who they believe we are and how we should act. This condition I’m talking about isn’t transmitted by mosquitos, but rather by ignorance and stereotypes. And no, it’s not a compliment; I don’t and won’t just brush it off.
It’s an insult to both parties. When people with yellow fever see an Asian, that’s all they see: the color of her skin. They don’t see her love for R&B music. They don’t care that she’s kinda good at baking macarons. Her culture, passions, and dislikes are glossed over by her identity that is used as a label. It’s as if their only standard for a relationship is their partner to be Asian. I think that’s a little pathetic.
I don’t want to be reduced to a gross fetish because some dudes think Asian girls are timid and submissive. I want to be seen as an opinionated and intelligent individual, because that’s who I am. Saying you ‘have a thing for Asian girls’ does not make you cultured or open-minded. It shows how you’ve overlooked millions of unique Asian and Asian American females and expect most, if not all, of them to fulfill your creepy fantasies.
It’s a shame that Asian women are subject to so much sexualization and prejudice. If we’re not the super feminine, obedient lady you imagined, then we’re just some chinks that can’t drive and all look the same. If that’s the case, I guess I’ll just go back to hogging two parking spots and cutting people off. You won’t even be able to tell it was me anyway, right?”
People with ‘yellow fever’ are completely fine with generalizing me and other Asians and Asian Americans, assuming we’ll fit into their little mold of who they believe we are and how we should act. This condition I’m talking about isn’t transmitted by mosquitos, but rather by ignorance and stereotypes. And no, it’s not a compliment; I don’t and won’t just brush it off.
It’s an insult to both parties. When people with yellow fever see an Asian, that’s all they see: the color of her skin. They don’t see her love for R&B music. They don’t care that she’s kinda good at baking macarons. Her culture, passions, and dislikes are glossed over by her identity that is used as a label. It’s as if their only standard for a relationship is their partner to be Asian. I think that’s a little pathetic.
I don’t want to be reduced to a gross fetish because some dudes think Asian girls are timid and submissive. I want to be seen as an opinionated and intelligent individual, because that’s who I am. Saying you ‘have a thing for Asian girls’ does not make you cultured or open-minded. It shows how you’ve overlooked millions of unique Asian and Asian American females and expect most, if not all, of them to fulfill your creepy fantasies.
It’s a shame that Asian women are subject to so much sexualization and prejudice. If we’re not the super feminine, obedient lady you imagined, then we’re just some chinks that can’t drive and all look the same. If that’s the case, I guess I’ll just go back to hogging two parking spots and cutting people off. You won’t even be able to tell it was me anyway, right?”
